Selfish Son – By Masarrat A Shah
Abdul, in his late 40’s parked in a couch and in a deep thought. Thinking about how his life turned upside down in just a year. How things changed forever around him and he is left alone.
It was a quiet Sunday and sky was cloudy as it will rain anytime soon. Abdul is in Hospital where he gets news that his wife succumbed to Cancer. He is crushed and is crying holding 2 of his kids, suddenly whole world came crashing on him. His Kids crying and saying what will we do now without Mummy,
Back to his thoughts and talking to himself, “I am so alone, and every day is miserable without you. I look on these walls and they are haunting me, everything is so empty without you, why did you leave us, why? How will I manage Kids and everything?”
Son: Enters Room and sits next to his father.
“Dad, what will we do now, how will we manage”, I am missing mummy.”
Abdul: You don’t need to worry about anything, remember now onwards, I am your Dad and I am also your Mummy. We will manage everything, remember if we become weak and loose, people will take advantage of that, do you understand what I am saying.
Son: Yes, Dad. Don’t worry I will be strong.
Abdul: Good, that’s my boy.
After few months, Abdul is sitting in his office and working as usual, going on with his life and routine. One of his colleagues enquirers, how are you doing. Sorry to hear about your loss.
Abdul: That’s alright, you cannot change the fate. It was supposed to happen, and I was prepared for it.
Colleague: You are strong indeed, btw, how are kids doing. They will be missing their mother. It is tough for them.
Abdul: Yea, very tough. But I am there for them and will take care, as I was when she was sick.
Colleague: Can I suggest something if you agree.
Colleague: You are young and whole life is in front of you, kids are also growing, and they need both the parents.
Abdul: What are you trying to suggest me?
Colleague: Why don’t you give a thought about remarriage; I am not saying immediately but just give a thought and see if you … maybe you will find someone who will take care of you and kids.
Abdul: Not sure, and it’s too early.
Colleague: I understand, just had a thought rest all is up to you. Take care.
Abdul while at home, having tea after a long day at work is thinking about what his colleague suggested with him at work about remarrying. He is giving it serious thought but don’t want to decide anything without talking to his kids.
Abdul: At dinner table and having dinner with his kids.
“I need talk about something to you both, it’s just a thought, OK”.
Kids: Okay, what is it?
Abdul: You see, I was doing a lot of thinking and had suggestion from my friends about … mmmm about getting married again. Because you guys need mother and someone who can take care of home.
Son: No, we don’t need any stranger to come and take place of our mother, we can manage ourselves. We don’t need new Mummy. And no one can replace her.
Abdul: I understand but say tomorrow when you guys will be busy with your life and work and family, I may need someone to talk to, share my daily stuff. Don’t you think so.
Son: Do you understand what these new Mothers do, they break the family, one of my friend has gone through this and he is now living with his grandparents. He lost his Dad and his home, everything.
Abdul: Everyone is not same, there are exceptions.
Son: In this area, they all are same, either they will come with their own children or will have and will care about their own ones and we will become strangers to step children, I don’t accept that and will never let that happen in our lives.
Dad why are you worried. You have us and we will take care of you, don’t you trust us, and we will live happily.
Abdul: I trust you and love you both. Ok, as you both say I won’t think about remarrying again. I have you and we have us.
After few years. Abdul has grown old and is just struggling with things, is retired now and sitting at home. Kids have grown and are busy with their lives, wife work etc. He feels alone and is sometimes scared to ask for help or anything from his Son etc. He does not have anyone to talk to.
Abdul: listen I have to see a doctor today; will you come early from office and take me to the clinic.
Son: Dad, I will try but as you know I am very busy.
Abdul: that’s alright, I will manage myself. (Man, thinks wish I had remarried, atleast my wife would have been here to take care of me and at least give me company).
After few months, Son realizes his father is struggling with various things, and he needs someone to be with him.
“I was so selfish, now I am realizing that we should have let Dad remarry, he would have someone to be at his side and take care of him. We all become selfish at every step of life and try to play safe so that we don’t get affected. At that time did we thought about our loved ones what they will be going through. We always think about ourselves and want our happiness, jeopardizing the life and happiness of others and in my case, my father”.
We should always keep in mind that they also deserve to live and be happy, if your Parents can sacrifice their life for your happiness, why can’t you.
At the end I want to say only one thing “Live and Let Live”, it’s easy to think about ourselves, be selfish and avoid odd situations, but we have to think what the situation for them in future will be.